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Regrets: One of The Most Useless Things In Life

The author writes about how regrets are useless. It’s better to redo the regretful things that were left undone than having regrets.

Knowing that I gave my best, knowing that I did what I could do, how can I have regrets in my life?

I often regret my past decisions. 

Regrets: How They Affect My Life

Someday I wake up in the morning after dreaming about my failures. And I start regretting and asking myself,”What if I succeeded?”

“What if I fought harder? What if I tried to succeed a little bit more?”

But I need to remember that I already gave my best.

I have nothing to regret. 

And therefore regret is useless.

It only lowers my self-confidence. And makes me feel guilty for not having a “better” life than what I have now.

There’s no point in regretting it, especially because I’m still very young, and I have a long time to live my life.

But if I can’t stop my regret, then instead of continuing to have regrets, I should try to minimize them by doing the things I should have done NOW.

Because life is not meant to be lived with regrets.

I am only 26, and I’m still not married. I can still take risks.

And although the effect of doing it now won’t be the same as doing it in the past, it can lead me to the same destination.

My Story

When I was in Birla High School in class 11, I couldn’t sit down to study. 

It wasn’t because my back hurt, but because I was facing mental health challenges.

I just couldn’t study. I just wanted to avoid it. 

And I played video games all day and wasted my time.

But I could see no alternative. 

If I forced myself to study, I’d get suicidal thoughts. 

So my only way to survive was to distract myself and play video games.

I told my psychotherapist about it, I asked people on the internet about my problem, I asked my parents, but nobody was able to help me.

I even read self-help books, but it didn’t help me.

So I failed in class 11. And I was detained. 

But now in 2026, my mental health is being treated by the best doctors in India in NIMHANS.

And I am improving.

And there’s no point in regretting it because the past is gone. What’s in my control is the present.

Instead, I should be grateful that I studied business administration in my graduation and post-graduation.

Being a science student in class 12th I should find it easier. 

I should learn from my mistakes and focus on not making those mistakes again.

Conclusion

So what I want to tell you is that regrets are useless and there’s no point in thinking about them.

If you can’t stop the regrets, it’s better to do those things again and stop the regrets.

Or we should be grateful for what we have.

Thank you for reading this line! It means a lot.

Therapy is one positive change that I made in my life

Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

I’ve been going to the psychologist for psychotherapy for the past 10 years.

And I think it is the most positive change I ever made in my life.

I learnt how to accept myself as I am.

I learn to control my anger to some extent till now.

I learnt how to make good decisions.

I learnt how to be realistic.

I learnt the value of education.

I learnt how to manage my time.

I learnt how to prioritise my own happiness.

I learnt to believe in myself.

Although I still make errors and mistakes. But I’m learning from psychotherapy regularly.

Although it’s nothing to be proud of because you’re supposed to stop therapy when you can deal with your problems alone.

My problems have persisted. And I’m working on it.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

Decisions Are Made Before We Think Them

In this blog post, I will write about why I think decisions are made even before we think about them.

We think that we should make the right decisions. But the truth is decisions are already made for us.

In my opinion, decisions are made for us in the sense that we are only the pawns of truth. 

Let me tell you a story.

When I was in class 10, I chose science as my stream. I then got detained in class 11 and chose science again.

I had the choice of choosing commerce or arts. But I chose science. 

Because I thought I was good at science and it was only my social anxiety that was hampering my studies, “I” stuck to “my” decision. 

And everyone in my family supported my decision.

But the truth was I couldn’t have chosen any other option. I had an option and it was a decision I made. But I also had no option. 

Even if I forced myself to choose arts, I would have felt guilty. 

All the reasons were stacked against arts. 

Almost everyone in my family studied science. And arts is an unfamiliar subject for my family members. And I didn’t know if I liked arts.

So I chose science.

There are many more similar stories which I am not comfortable sharing at the moment. 

Stories where you know you have nothing to lose and you choose your dreams over a “normal” life are also something we think we decide. But actually, the decisions are made even before we think about them.

Again there’s a spiritual side to it as well. But I will not go into it because I am not that knowledgeable in spirituality.

But it is also clear when we look back into the past that the dots connect perfectly and it’s all decided beforehand.

Conclusion

So I invite you to sit down and reflect on your life and see how all your past decisions and events led you to where you are right now.

Thank you for reading this blog post. Please comment- On a scale from 1 to 5 how grateful are you for all the past decisions that led you where you are right now?