Every time a new season arrives I wish that the alternative season could arrive as soon as possible.
When the summer season arrives I wish I could get some more cold water to drink from the refrigerator.
When the rainy season arrives I wish I could travel to some dry place.
But we learn to adapt to their new weathers.
Change is the only constant and I can’t say that favourite weather is something and then miss the alternative weather.
Likewise when we say,”I wish I had a better and more expensive car”, or “I wish I had a better job”, or “I wish I had more of this or that”, we are unhappy with what we have and think that we will be happy when things change.
But when we get that thing or achieve that goal, we want something more.
Unless we learn to be satisfied with what we have, we will never be truly happy.
But I don’t prefer any one weather.
I just wish that I don’t complain much about things I can’t control; things like the weather.
If I had to say who the most confident person I know is, it would be-
Not one person, but all kinds of people who share value of humanity.
And guess what everyone can be a confident and good human beings.
But if I had to say one person’s name- my mother.
She is the most confident person I know.
Thank you my dear followers/readers/writers.
Honestly I get social anxiety in the comments sections of some of your posts. Y’all know so much more than me and I feel like if I comment, I’ll look like a fool. But I will try to comment more.
Thank you all my 19 dear followers. I just wanted to thank each and every one of you for liking my blog posts even though I have a lot to learn in writing.
What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
I write poems and listen to sad songs(when I’m sad) to cope with negative feelings.
Honesty my repository of activities to do when feeling negative feelings is pretty small.
When I say negative feelings, I mean anger, hopelessness, sadness, apathy, fear, shame, etc.
Emotions
Here’s what I do when I feel these emotions –
Anger–
First I remember the words of Sri Ramakrishna Paramahansa who said ” যে সয় সে রয়, যে না সয় তার নাশ হয়।” It means in English,”He who tolerates, is able to withstand, He who does not tolerate, gets destroyed.”
Then I stay away from the person I am angry with.
Then I start listening to sad songs and writing.
Hopelessness–
When I feel hopeless, my mother is my savior. She talks to me all the time.
My mother (মা), maa, is my best friend.
Writing doesn’t help in this department. Nor does sad songs.
Sadness–
I listen to sad songs. I guess I write only poems when I feel sad.
Apathy–
Apathy means not feeling like doing anything or “indifference”.
In these case, I ask myself,”What am I interested in learning/doing now?”
Usually it’s some computer skills unrelated to my academic studies.
But it gets me out of my negative feelings.
Fear–
I call my mom because I have no friends.
No sad songs or writing helps though.
Shame–
Shame, self-hatred, etc. are horrible feelings which I feel when visiting some of my relatives’ places.
It’s truly horrible.
They make me feel like I better hide under a rock and disappear for the next 20 years.
They compare me to my cousins and uncles.
They say things that has utter insensitivity to my mental health issues. They don’t understand and they don’t want to understand mental illnesses. Period.
I don’t visit them much. That’s how I cope with shame.
Conclusion
So that’s a lot of combinations of- writing,music and my mom.
I hope I never outgrow these three gifts of my life. May I always love writing, music and my mom (মা).
Well this script is Bengali, our local Indian language in Kolkata, India.
When your mind rebels against you Because it wants to tell you A message A guidance that might change your life.
The age-old message is- “Do what you love Follow your heart Break the chains and be yourself.”
At first, it’s scary But it’s possible That you could take a leap of faith And do what you are passionate about.
Maybe you will look like a failure Maybe you will not succeed Or maybe you could become your true self And show others the light at the end of the tunnel.
Because everybody wants to be free But nobody wants to let go of their safety net Nobody want to give up their illusion of “life” Nobody wants to ignore people’s opinions.
These messages are rare Not many people have such rebellious minds Follow your heart And be free.
There’s no hell or heaven Outside yourself In the afterlife Nor in other people’s mentalities.
Hell is when don’t understand the reality Heaven is when you seek to see what they see Hell is ignore-ance Heaven is acceptance and empathy.
People fight outside my house But they’re not other than me They are just like my mother, my father, my friends I choose to not ignore and feel their place of pain.
Pain is real, pain is there People don’t go to hell We, You, I am already in hell Trying to make it heaven piece by piece, brick by brick.
Next time when you pray to your God, say “I don’t want heaven nor hell. I just want to see the truth, your face No matter how ugly or beautiful you might be.”
