Heartbreak Is Real: Understand Her

The author writes about how even after a heartbreak a woman needs to be understood by the man. Just because she rejects a man doesn’t allow the man to blame her. A man needs to understand her.

Heartbreak is real, but it’s necessary.

You need to understand the girl’s perspective.

You propose to her. She rejects you.

Maybe she doesn’t feel attracted to you.

Maybe she has some reasons to reject you.

Maybe she has so many problems in her own life that she can’t say “yes”.

Maybe she just wants you as a “friend”.

Your heart breaks.

But you can’t and shouldn’t think only from one side.

If you didn’t get that heartbreak then you wouldn’t get the opportunity to understand the girl.

You need to understand her.

You need to heal yourself by understanding her.

You need to smile and forgive her.

Because she also has feelings, thoughts,etc.

And these feelings and thoughts deserve your understanding.

Thank you for reading this line! It means a lot.

This Beautiful Song – An Original Poem

I’m listening to this beautiful song
Don’t know what she’s thinking
Don’t know how she feels about me
Don’t know if we’ll ever be together

I’m listening to this beautiful song
Don’t know if I should ask her
Don’t know if I should ask her about us
Don’t know if I should ask her about our future

I’m listening to this beautiful song
Don’t know if we should stay friends
Don’t know if our destinies are intertwined
Don’t know if we are meant for each other

I’m listening to this beautiful song
Don’t know if I should write poems anymore
Don’t know if she’ll understand me
Don’t know if God exists

I’m listening to this beautiful song
Don’t know if…
Don’t know how to feel
Don’t know how to not listen to this beautiful song

– Anirban Saren

Empathy – A secret skill I wish I had

What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?

A definition of empathy –

the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another

–The Merriam-Webster Dictionary Definition

I wish I had this skill.

Maybe I have this skill to some degree but I wish I had more empathy.

Why do I wish for this skill?

Because empathy is in my opinion the skill that helps us be more caring, loving, understanding of other people’s suffering, peaceful,etc.

And I don’t just want to learn empathy because it is useful.

I feel that having empathy is my duty.

Why is it my duty?

Well I think it’s everybody’s duty to develop the skill of empathy.

Why do I think it’s our duty?

Because there are people fighting for change, our rights.

Feminism, Equality, LGBTQ Lives Matter, Black Lives Matter, Bahujan Lives Matter, Adivasi Lives Matter!

These movements wouldn’t be possible without empathy.

I am glad you read this line. Thanks a lot! 😊

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A New Perspective On Social Anxiety

I would like to write about my privilege.

Before that, I would like to tell you a story.

Once there was a boy with a mental illness. But people didn’t know that his condition was due to mental illness. The boy acted normally except he wouldn’t socialize much. Most times he wouldn’t socialize with people and would avoid people. He would also do rude facial expressions and sweat a lot. He would sometimes passively say rude things to avoid people.

So people thought he was too arrogant and self-centered.

But the boy asked for forgiveness from God in his heart every time he did something rude. He would say to himself in his mind,” I don’t want to be rude. But I can’t help it. I have social anxiety. Hope you understand.”

Only time will tell but I hope the boy finds peace and happiness in life and so do the people in his life.

Now let’s talk about my privilege.

I have been on both the receiving and the giving end of the spectrum of the above story.

I have been through social anxiety and I have seen people go through social anxiety. I have misjudged many people and I deeply regret it. And I have been through enough situations to understand people’s pain.

My privilege is that I have been through mental illness to be able to relate to the pain of others who are going through mental illness.

The reason I wanted to bring this perspective to your attention is that I think people suffer in silence even though other people see them as inflicting the suffering.

I think we need to have more empathy and actively seek to include people.

This verse from The Bible says it best-

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” – Luke 6:37

Also, I think we need to take it one step further by trying to forgive them even before they ask for forgiveness, and by thinking good thoughts for them.

This applies to both perspectives of the story.

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