Tag: self-respect

The Secret To Getting Respect From Others

The author writes about his experiences and realizations about self-respect and getting respect from others.

I have a friend who is very transparent and pure hearted.

He has a lot of self-respect.

So he shares me reels on Instagram about self-respect.

And his point of view is that if a girl doesn’t respect you, you shouldn’t chase her.

Other than love advice, I also learnt many other things from his reels.

But self-respect is a key idea that changed my life.

Before I was admitted to NIMHANS(National Institute of Mental Health and Neurosciences, Bangalore) in 2025, I used to call everyone “Sir”,”Maam”,”Dada”(elder brother),”Didi”(elder sister).

I didn’t realize that I was unnecessarily putting others on a pedestal.

I was giving people more respect than they deserved.

And I was also making myself uncomfortable and feeling disrespected by them.

So I stopped using those titles like sir, madam, dada, didi, unnecessarily.

I use them only when the person is an elderly person who is somehow related to my circle of friends and family.

Moreover, I have learnt to respect myself more. I am kinder to myself.

And I noticed that people started taking me more seriously, and I got more respect from people.

I also used to unconsciously smile a lot to get people’s approval. But recently I decided to become more comfortable in my own skin and to love myself more and to smile less. 

So I don’t smile unnecessarily with everyone.

But I think I have grown a lot. I don’t think that shallow tricks like not smiling or not saying titles make any difference.

The real difference is the medicines and the psychotherapy from NIMHANS.

My doctors have worked very hard to help me. And I am grateful to them.

So yeah I think if you want to get respect from others, you need to respect yourself first.

Thank you for reading this line. It means a lot!

I wish

I wish I had the courage to tell her

That I think about her

That I care for her

That I don’t want to lose her

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I wish I had the intelligence to understand her

To feel her pain

To let her make mistakes but

To let me feel her pain

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I wish I was closer to her

To protect her

To be by her side

Even when she didn’t want me

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I wish I could be someone she prefers

Someone she thinks is handsome

And be hot and cool

And everything she adores

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I wish I could tell her

That I love her

That I just want her soul

That I just want to be there for her.

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Anirban Saren

Forgive yourself

When you meet a stranger and based on their first impressions you judge them and think maybe they are rude and you are innocent, remember that they also might think the same about you.

You judgement that they are rude and judgemental is your judgement. And they aren’t necessarily true.

So stop judging and be happy.

We all are equal. And we must respect ourselves and each other.

Forgive yourself and forgive them and forget.

I’m glad you’re reading this. Thanks a lot!

Why am I doing this?

I am doing this for myself.

I am doing this for my soul.

I am doing this for my mental health.

I am doing this for my hope of a good life.

I am doing this for my dreams.

I am doing this for my pleasure.

I am doing it for my passions.

I am doing this for my truth.

I matter, all these things matter and I am doing this unapologetically for myself.

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What’s confidence? – An Original Poem

Daily writing prompt
Who is the most confident person you know?
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What’s confidence?

What’s confidence?
To be humble, yet fiercely brave
To be reasonable, understanding of your enemy’s pain
To not be violent, but argue peacefully.

What’s confidence?
It’s not about speaking in a charismatic way
It’s not about lying so subtly
It’s not about manipulating to get your own way.

What’s confidence?
To be honest about your needs
To draw healthy boundaries
To respect yourself.

What’s confidence?
It’s not something to show others
It’s how you feel about yourself
It’s about your values.

-Anirban Saren

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If I had to say who the most confident person I know is, it would be-

Not one person, but all kinds of people who share value of humanity.

And guess what everyone can be a confident and good human beings.

But if I had to say one person’s name- my mother.

She is the most confident person I know.

Thank you my dear followers/readers/writers.

Honestly I get social anxiety in the comments sections of some of your posts. Y’all know so much more than me and I feel like if I comment, I’ll look like a fool. But I will try to comment more.