Tag: forgiveness

Heartbreak Is Real: Understand Her

The author writes about how even after a heartbreak a woman needs to be understood by the man. Just because she rejects a man doesn’t allow the man to blame her. A man needs to understand her.

Heartbreak is real, but it’s necessary.

You need to understand the girl’s perspective.

You propose to her. She rejects you.

Maybe she doesn’t feel attracted to you.

Maybe she has some reasons to reject you.

Maybe she has so many problems in her own life that she can’t say “yes”.

Maybe she just wants you as a “friend”.

Your heart breaks.

But you can’t and shouldn’t think only from one side.

If you didn’t get that heartbreak then you wouldn’t get the opportunity to understand the girl.

You need to understand her.

You need to heal yourself by understanding her.

You need to smile and forgive her.

Because she also has feelings, thoughts,etc.

And these feelings and thoughts deserve your understanding.

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Forgive More: One Of The Most Important Skills

The author has been bad at forgiving most of his life. But he realizes that he should forgive more through therapy and life experiences.

I’m not really a pro if I have to forgive someone. I hold grudges for a long time.

But I know that forgiveness is important.

When I was in class 6 or 7, a classmate called me names and later also he said bad things about my mother.

I never forgave him.

He asked for forgiveness but in spite of that I didn’t forgive him.

But today when I reflect I realize that he deserves forgiveness. 

Mistakes are made by everyone, and they deserve forgiveness if they realize their mistakes.

And even now I hold grudges towards some people. But I need to forgive them.

I need to give them a second chance.

And as I go to therapy sessions I realize my weakness of being bad at forgiveness and that I need to forgive more.

So yeah I’m working on my forgiveness skills. 

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How I Turned My Failure Into Success

The author writes about how he failed in high school and still managed to complete his MBA years later in spite of other people’s negative remarks.

When I was in class 11 in high school, I failed and was detained for one year.

I was asked to change schools and study in class 11 again.

It was a failure for me. And I felt very bad about myself at that time.

I felt like I was not enough and that I was somehow flawed and not normal.

I remember a few remarks from my relatives about me failing one year and it stuck with me.

Whenever I wanted to feel good about myself, those remarks about failing one year would haunt me.

“How can I be a successful person knowing that I failed a test in class 11?”

“I am a failure because I failed in my studies.”

All kinds of negative self-talk started in my mind since then.

But fast forward 10 years, I have completed my MBA in Data Science. 

I have completed a post-graduate degree.

And I am proud of myself. 

I have persisted and not given up.

I have worked and I have achieved my version of success no matter the size.

My failure in class 11 set me up for success by making me more ambitious. 

After I failed in class 11 I wanted to show my relatives that I can do much bigger things. 

If they want to make me a black sheep of the family, I’ll show that I can be different in a great way.

That I can be different from them by getting an MBA degree and someday starting my own business.

And I know the importance of forgiveness and that it’s normal for those remarks by relatives. 

I do forgive them for what they said, and I also know that the fire inside me for greater dreams has been lit up and there’s no stopping now.

I am grateful for my failure in class 11 and my relatives’ remarks. Because they were fuel for my successes.

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I could let go of my anger

What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?

If I could let go of something and if it brings harmony,  I would let go of my anger.

I used to think anger was necessary to get justice.

But now I think differently.

I’ve been in NIMHANS for over 2.5 months and my perspective has changed.

What anger does is make us think emotionally and not logically.

And when I get angry, the first thing I try to do is box breathing and the 5-4-3-2-1 method.

It helps to do some kapalbhati and bhastrika yoga pranayamas.

I think I have grown a lot in these few months.

So yeah if I had to let it go, I would let go of my anger.

And then think calmly.

Anger is the enemy and we need to let it go.

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Forgiveness is the greatest dharma/religion

I am not a saint nor am I am scientist.

But I admit when I am wrong or when I made a mistake.

One day I had said something that hurt my grandmother.

She felt misunderstood and hurt.

But she forgave us.

My uncle later said this line “Forgiveness is the greatest dharma”.

Forgive is indeed the greatest dharma. It is the ultimate tool for healing.

It can stop wars, change people, heal hearts,etc.

It can also replace any organized religion.

When you know the value of forgiveness you don’t need another religion because you treat the other person like you treat yourself.

You try to find God in the other person by putting aside your assumptions for a moment.

I know this post is a bit disorganised. It’s because I am going through a big change in my life.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

Forgive yourself

When you meet a stranger and based on their first impressions you judge them and think maybe they are rude and you are innocent, remember that they also might think the same about you.

You judgement that they are rude and judgemental is your judgement. And they aren’t necessarily true.

So stop judging and be happy.

We all are equal. And we must respect ourselves and each other.

Forgive yourself and forgive them and forget.

I’m glad you’re reading this. Thanks a lot!