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How My Illusions of Anger and Misunderstanding Are Removed By The Bhagavad Gita

The author writes about how reading the Bhagavad Gita helps him overcome the illusions of emotions like anger, misunderstanding, etc.

The Bhagavad Gita helps me overcome illusions of anger and misunderstanding and more.

Yesterday I was very angry with my sister. 

I was feeling angry because she comes to my bedroom and sleeps in it because it’s tidier than her bedroom.

She goes back to her bedroom at night but yesterday I felt very possessive of my bedroom.

So I felt angry even minutes after she went back to her room.

But then I started reading the Bhagavad Gita.

And I read a couple of chapters, and my anger was dispelled fast. 

Because when I read the Bhagavad Gita, it reminded me of the real goal of life.

It gave me clarity and I felt balanced and calm.

I also performed some of the psychological and breathing techniques that I learnt from NIMHANS.

And it helped me.

But the Bhagavad Gita was a real help.

My anger and possessiveness were illusions. They were not real. They were born of misunderstanding.

Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t read the Bhagavad Gita earlier.

Because if I had read it earlier, I would not have dropped out of the science stream after school.

But now there’s no point regretting it.

I need to use everything I have and not feel sorry for myself.

It’s never too late to change. 

And now that I have the dispeller of all illusions — The Bhagavad Gita, I can relax.

I am thankful I read Bhagavad Gita.

Thank you for reading this line! It means a lot.

Anger: How To Be Free From It

Anger is one of the most destructive emotions. The author writes about his experiences with anger and shares spiritual texts to explain it.

I think anger is  one of the most destructive emotions.

Story Time: My Experiences With Anger

When I was in my teenage years, I used to get very angry at my family members. 

The reason I was angry was because I blamed them for everything.

And although now I realize that I was wrong, in those days I was blinded by my immaturity.

I had so many expectations from my parents that if they didn’t support me, I’d get angry.

I also expected a lot from myself. 

When I was in class 11, I was in the science stream and I hated science. Physics, Chemistry, and Math didn’t get inside my head. 

I really didn’t understand them partly because I had too many expectations from my teachers as well. 

I remember I used to obsess over “Why can’t I study?” because I couldn’t sit down to study.

In those days there was no ChatGPT to counsel me for free.

I was seeing a therapist, but I had high expectations from them as well, and I changed my therapist multiple times.

What The Bhagavad Gita Has To Say

In the Bhagavad Gita it is very nicely written-

Chapter 2 verse 62-

“Thinking of objects, attachment to them is formed in a man. From attachment longing, and from longing anger grows.”

Chapter 2 verse 63-

“From anger comes delusion, and from delusion loss of memory. From loss of memory comes the ruin of discrimination, and from the ruin of discrimination he perishes.”

So I have experienced this first hand to some extent and I believe anyone who feels anger also experiences these conditions first hand.

So I really believe anger is one of the most destructive emotions of all.

Techniques to deal with anger

And throughout these years through psychological counselling I have learnt a few techniques like-

  1. Box breathing technique
  2. 5-4-3-2-1 technique
  3. JPMR technique
  4. The Socratic Method of Inquiry
  5. Journaling

And I think these techniques do help in reducing my anger.

Conclusion

But the root cause of anger should also be fixed by journaling in a diary daily and going for psychological counselling.

It’s the thought process that needs to be examined for us to release us from the shackles of anger.

So yeah anger is one of the most destructive emotions and there are ways to be free from it.

Thank you for reading this line! It means a lot.

I could let go of my anger

What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?

If I could let go of something and if it brings harmony,  I would let go of my anger.

I used to think anger was necessary to get justice.

But now I think differently.

I’ve been in NIMHANS for over 2.5 months and my perspective has changed.

What anger does is make us think emotionally and not logically.

And when I get angry, the first thing I try to do is box breathing and the 5-4-3-2-1 method.

It helps to do some kapalbhati and bhastrika yoga pranayamas.

I think I have grown a lot in these few months.

So yeah if I had to let it go, I would let go of my anger.

And then think calmly.

Anger is the enemy and we need to let it go.

Thanks for reading this line. It means a lot.

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How To Control Your Anger?

The author reflects on personal struggles with anger and its impact on self-esteem and mental health. They share experiences of losing control, including violent outbursts, and highlight the importance of managing anger through internal and external strategies. Seeking therapy is emphasized as a valuable resource for better emotional health.

I get angry sometimes. And this affects my self-esteem and peace of mind. It causes regret in me. 

My Brief Story

Although I no longer get angry to the extent of becoming violent. But I sometimes struggle to control my anger even today. 

But I have improved my self-control a lot over the years.

I remember one day I got so angry that I tore my own clothes in an attempt to run towards the other person. Luckily the neutral people stopped me.

And if that’s not enough of hell, I take medication for my bipolar affective disorder(BPAD) even today.

I am getting better. But that’s some of my story of my struggles with my anger.

Ways To Control Your Anger

In this blog post I will write about 3 internal ways and 3 external ways to control your anger.

Internal ways-

  1. Realizing that anger has consequences. It affects your self-esteem. And it can lead to violence and even death of someone.
  2. Practice gratitude for the things you already have.
  3. Perform any form of introspection daily like journaling, meditation, realizing that your expectations of the other persons are just going to make you more unhappy because you can’t change others but only yourself, etc.

External ways-

  1. AVOID them- Stay away from/avoid the other persons, events or thoughts that trigger your anger for some time. This is something you can do immediately.
  2. Let your anger go- Try to identify what you feel in the angry moments. Observe your emotions and let it go.
    I read back in 2017 called “The Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and Emotional Well-Being” by Hale Dwoskin. 
    In that book it taught 5 questions to ask yourself consecutively to release your emotions quickly-
    • What do I feel?(example-”Anger”/”sad”/”peaceful”…)
    • Could I allow myself to welcome this feeling?(example-”yes”)
    • Could I let it go?(example-”yes”)
    • Would I let it go?(example-”yes”)
    • When?(ideally “now” but if you are not ready say “later” and then repeat these questions to yourself until you can say “now” and release these emotions. Repeat these questions as many times as your feel comfortable asking.)
    • You can answer “no” or “later” or whatever you want. Remember these questions are for yourself to ask yourself internally. (I practice them till date and these questions saved me from many difficult situations.)
  3. See a psychotherapist. Maybe you are unable to control your anger because something needs to change in your life. Maybe you are unable to change your life yourself because you have your own biases. So go to a therapist. They might be able to help. 

There’s no shame in going to a therapist because they are like doctors. You go to a doctor when you get a fever in your body. Likewise you go to a psychiatrist, psychologist or a psychotherapist when you have a “fever” or illness in your mind.

Conclusion

As I said earlier in this blog post that “I get angry sometimes. And this affects my self-esteem and peace of mind. It causes regret in me. ”. 

This may not be entirely true for you or other people but regardless of that anger does more damage to your and other people’s lives than you can imagine.

Worst of all it can lead to violence, injury, death, etc. So please be careful because prevention is better than cure. Regret is one of the worst things in life. Forgiveness is the greatest religion.

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