Accept whatever life throws at you.
Without accepting you can’t change it.
Without accepting you can’t be happy.
Without accepting you can’t be good.
Surrender to the truth however bitter it may be.
That’s real growth.
That’s real healing.
Truth is the ultimate healer.
Acceptance is the ultimate method of healing.
I’ve met and known people in my life who did great things not because they could do it but because they had to do it.
But why is that the case? Why is pain the greatest motivator instead of pleasure?
All my life I wanted to start a business.
And I did start a business after high school.
But I had to close it because of my unique circumstances.
But I wasn’t doing well in that business when I ran it.
I lacked motivation and I was lazy.
I started the business because I was scared of my responsibility for studying for graduation.
At that time I was thinking about dropping from regular college and I hadn’t yet taken admission in an online degree course.
And I was lost.
Long story short, I closed that business because of my unique circumstances.
Mostly because I felt anxious about running the business.
But then after I closed the business I had to study for graduation.
After a lot of listening to sad songs and realistic advice from YouTube, I studied for my graduation and graduated with a Bachelor’s of Business Administration degree.
It was at this time I felt my beliefs about the world were becoming more realistic and my mind was getting calmer.
Beliefs like “A degree is just a piece of paper” just went out the window and I realised that a degree is “more valuable than a million dollars”.
Beliefs like “psychologists don’t know anything” was replaced by “psychologists are trained professionals who know what they are doing. Their advice is backed by scientific research.”
I score 70% in my graduation which is good. (I am proud of myself no matter what because I had BPAD and I did it in spite of that.)
And this success in my graduation was not fueled by avoidance but pain.
If I didn’t graduate from college, I can’t get even the most basic corporate job.
Without a job there’s no income because business is not easy for most people.
I guess most of the startups fail within the first few years.
And I am not from a rich family.
This realisation was painful and I would sleep for hours during the day but one day I realised that I need to fight for my highest possibility.
And so I did. And with God’s grace I won.
So actually there is no pleasure or pain in reality. They are just perceptions of the mind.
And sometimes the truth is painful.
I guess I don’t know the scientific reason why pain is more powerful than pleasure. I guess you can tell me in the comments section.
But I hope my story shed some light on this question.
I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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A good leader must first embody qualities of a good person, defined primarily by honesty and integrity. While not perfect, such individuals stay true to their word and admit their mistakes. Morality is crucial, often valuing personal character as much as success or wealth. The reflection on leadership is influenced by personal experiences.
I belief a good leader must be a good person even before they start leading people.
What is a good person?
Now this one is what I can answer.
I can answer this NOT because I think I am a good person.
I am not a bad person. I am moderately good. But only other people’s statements regarding my character will be true.
So what is a good person?
I have read the Bhagavad Gita’s Chapter 2 but I will not borrow definitions from it because that’s not verified by me with direct experience.
In my opinion, a good person is a person who is honest(to himself/herself always and to others most of the time).
I know a person who is older than me. They are a leader in their profession. And they are good as a person in the common sense. But they are also honest to the extent that they will go out of their way to keep their word.
It’s 21st century and I am talking about the “word”.
Who cares about honesty these days? Right?
Well, the answer isn’t “nobody”. Although nobody is honest all the time. And nobody is flawless. There are people who are honest and pure hearted.
They would admit they are wrong even if it means their opponents would win.
Morality is as important as money or success.
The person I was talking about can be any good leader in the world.
But I had my mother’s life floating before my eyes when I was writing the above lines.
Same goes for my elder sister.
Thank you for reading this blog post. Please comment your opinion on what a good leader is.
I think life is about being truthful and honest.
Let me explain it this way. Truthful in the way that we learn to speak our truth and rediscover ourselves. We look at ourselves honestly and accept ourselves.
I think life is about being free from inhibitions, falsehood and limitations.
Life is about asking God for strength and using that strength to bear life circumstances to do something selfless, to be selfless.
I think life is about having a dream and chasing that dream like a child who wants a chocolate except you never give up like a child.
I think life is about aiming for being the best and die in that effort metaphorically.
I think life is about being yourself by believing in yourself.
I think life is about being able to look in the mirror and love yourself fully and not compare or hate yourself or feel self-pity.
I think life is about making your mother, father and God proud. (I learnt this from a yoga class where they used to teach praying to mother, father and God before starting the yoga practice.)
I think life is about listening to your heart and healing yourself.
I think life is about believing in yourself no matter what happens.
So I hope I will be able to share more of my realizations with you in the future.
Thanks for reading this short blog post.
In mythology, astrology, and energy healing, the term mental health issues is not used. Maybe it’s because they were unaware of mental health in ancient times. And science was not advanced back then.
But we need to see that social media and the internet was not part of life back then as well, excess sugar consumption in fast foods was not there, and climate change, pollution, industrialization wasn’t present back then.
But the point I am trying to make is consciousness is still consciousness even if in ancient times it was much simpler, and now we are in the darker ages. Consciousness work is still relevant.
My life’s journey is to move from mental health issues to a more conscious life. And I think anything that takes me there is worth writing about.
I have attended a few online meditation workshops, met a few spiritual masters including Sri M and I have a desire to become more conscious.
You see taking medication and working in a 9-to-5 job is not enough. From mental health issues to becoming a value producing citizen of the world is not enough. We need to become conscious of ourselves.
We need to live a conscious life. A life of consciousness is a life of what is true for you and the universe.
Now it is an individual journey to discover what is true for you and the universe. I cannot give it to you nor can a spiritual teacher. It is yours to find out.
What I want to tell you is the answers to your life’s problems is in consciousness work. What does it mean?
It means to seek the truth. It means to change your life to prioritize truth more than money, pleasure, etc. It means to seek God in whatever form that resonates with you. It means to not sacrifice other parts of your life but prioritize consciousness first.
Mental health is an important part and I take medication and go to therapy. But I don’t want to be limited. I want to take responsibility for life and have a vision where consciousness is a big part because consciousness is one of my main values.
Maybe you don’t have mental health issues. Maybe you have money issues, or career issues, or family issues, or self-esteem issues or some other issue. But the solution is inside you only if you look consciously.
Of course medication and therapy is important for me to survive but I am telling you honestly that those are not long term solutions. Only if I look inside and when I do, I will find the permanent solution.
Even mythology, astrology and healing are not the permanent solutions. They are closer to the truth but they are not the absolute truth.
You need to find out what it is that is the absolute truth.
Resources to get started with:
See you next time!
