Month: March 2025

A New Perspective On Social Anxiety

I would like to write about my privilege. Before that, I would like to tell you a story. Once there was a boy with a mental illness. But people didn’t know that his condition was due to mental illness. The boy acted normally except he wouldn’t socialize much. Most times he wouldn’t socialize with people […]

A New Perspective On Social Anxiety

Just thought this might brighten up the rest of your day.

Please read this reblog post and let me know your opinion.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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Pain is the greatest motivator

I’ve met and known people in my life who did great things not because they could do it but because they had to do it.

But why is that the case? Why is pain the greatest motivator instead of pleasure?

Business

All my life I wanted to start a business.

And I did start a business after high school.

But I had to close it because of my unique circumstances.

But I wasn’t doing well in that business when I ran it.

I lacked motivation and I was lazy.

I started the business because I was scared of my responsibility for studying for graduation.

At that time I was thinking about dropping from regular college and I hadn’t yet taken admission in an online degree course.

And I was lost.

Long story short, I closed that business because of my unique circumstances.

Mostly because I felt anxious about running the business.

Graduation

But then after I closed the business I had to study for graduation.

After a lot of listening to sad songs and realistic advice from YouTube, I studied for my graduation and graduated with a Bachelor’s of Business Administration degree.

It was at this time I felt my beliefs about the world were becoming more realistic and my mind was getting calmer.

Beliefs like “A degree is just a piece of paper” just went out the window and I realised that a degree is “more valuable than a million dollars”.

Beliefs like “psychologists don’t know anything” was replaced by “psychologists are trained professionals who know what they are doing. Their advice is backed by scientific research.”

I score 70% in my graduation which is good. (I am proud of myself no matter what because I had BPAD and I did it in spite of that.)

And this success in my graduation was not fueled by avoidance but pain.

Conclusion

If I didn’t graduate from college, I can’t get even the most basic corporate job.

Without a job there’s no income because business is not easy for most people.

I guess most of the startups fail within the first few years.

And I am not from a rich family.

This realisation was painful and I would sleep for hours during the day but one day I realised that I need to fight for my highest possibility.

And so I did. And with God’s grace I won.

So actually there is no pleasure or pain in reality. They are just perceptions of the mind.

And sometimes the truth is painful.

I guess I don’t know the scientific reason why pain is more powerful than pleasure. I guess you can tell me in the comments section.

But I hope my story shed some light on this question.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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I am a writer who uses his mobile phone to write and publish his work

How has technology changed your job?

You already know how technology has changed a writer’s job.

I am a writer who writes.

And various people have different ways to get started writing.

Some write on a laptop, desktop PC, Mac, while others write on paper.

I write on a PC and a mobile phone.

But I generally feel more comfortable on my mobile phone.

For me if I had to state the biggest way technology has changed my job as a writer, I would say-

The mobile phone has made writing easier.

I’m glad you’re reading this line. Thanks a lot!

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Why am I doing this?

I am doing this for myself.

I am doing this for my soul.

I am doing this for my mental health.

I am doing this for my hope of a good life.

I am doing this for my dreams.

I am doing this for my pleasure.

I am doing it for my passions.

I am doing this for my truth.

I matter, all these things matter and I am doing this unapologetically for myself.

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I’m pretty bad at saying “No”

How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?

I’m pretty bad at saying “No”.

I care too much about other people’s opinions and advice.

So when someone tells me about a goal that looks attractive, I think about it and get distracted from my main goal.

I’m working on fixing this tendency.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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You’re the master of your fate, the captain of your soul

I was writing in my journal and I started questioning why I thought I was a victim.

After a few minutes I realised that I wasn’t a victim.

I am the master of my fate, the captain of my soul.

I first learnt this phrase from the book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. This line is originally from the poem “Invictus” by William Ernest Henley.

So the question is –

So what? I am the master of my fate and the captain of my soul? I already know it, you might ask.

Well yes you already know it.

But in my case I have problems in life and I was blaming them and staying stuck in life.

We also do the same unknowingly of course.

We blame our circumstances and our family and our personality and focus on our weaknesses.

But what if we focus on our strengths and the positive sides of our lives?

We will realise that we’re not a victim.

I think we know we’re not a victim but we fall into the trap of thinking the opposite regularly when faced with problems which we find difficult to solve.

So we need to recharge ourselves by socializing, talking to friends and meeting positive people, read positive books and having fun.

I just wanted to remind you that you’re not a victim but the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.

I’m glad you read this. Thanks a lot!

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Empathy – A secret skill I wish I had

What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?

A definition of empathy –

the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another

–The Merriam-Webster Dictionary Definition

I wish I had this skill.

Maybe I have this skill to some degree but I wish I had more empathy.

Why do I wish for this skill?

Because empathy is in my opinion the skill that helps us be more caring, loving, understanding of other people’s suffering, peaceful,etc.

And I don’t just want to learn empathy because it is useful.

I feel that having empathy is my duty.

Why is it my duty?

Well I think it’s everybody’s duty to develop the skill of empathy.

Why do I think it’s our duty?

Because there are people fighting for change, our rights.

Feminism, Equality, LGBTQ Lives Matter, Black Lives Matter, Bahujan Lives Matter, Adivasi Lives Matter!

These movements wouldn’t be possible without empathy.

I am glad you read this line. Thanks a lot! 😊

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You’re not special

I had read a book called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck” by Mark Manson.

There the author writes about how entitlement or thinking that we’re special is the cause of our problems.

It is a deeply healing book and opened my eyes to the real meaning of the Bhagavad Gita.

I’m not an authority on spiritual texts, so I’ll only share my opinion.

I felt there’s a relationship between Mark Manson’s book and The Gita.

Maybe Mark Manson didn’t read the Gita. But I feel that way for some unknown reason.

For example from Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 2 verse 47 as little as I understand, it tells us to do work but be detached from the results.

I feel that Mark Manson also wants to say this through his work.

Why am I saying this? Why am I writing about Mark Manson’s book, The Bhagavad Gita and concepts of entitlement?

Because I feel it reduces our suffering.

It releases us from the idea that we must do something great. That somehow we’re special.

Sometimes it’s wiser to be humble and down-to-earth.

No life is ordinary.

Where I’m right now, I will meet my psychiatrist and psychologist in a few days and I feel like I should be treated in a special way.

Will that happen?

Nope, not going to happen.

I am getting a lot better. I have healed a lot from my mental health issues like bipolar disorder, psychosis, social anxiety, etc.

But my situation isn’t and never was special.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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My favorite weather is the present weather

What is your favorite type of weather

Every time a new season arrives I wish that the alternative season could arrive as soon as possible.

When the summer season arrives I wish I could get some more cold water to drink from the refrigerator.

When the rainy season arrives I wish I could travel to some dry place.

But we learn to adapt to their new weathers.

Change is the only constant and I can’t say that favourite weather is something and then miss the alternative weather.

Likewise when we say,”I wish I had a better and more expensive car”, or “I wish I had a better job”, or “I wish I had more of this or that”, we are unhappy with what we have and think that we will be happy when things change.

But when we get that thing or achieve that goal, we want something more.

Unless we learn to be satisfied with what we have, we will never be truly happy.

But I don’t prefer any one weather.

I just wish that I don’t complain much about things I can’t control; things like the weather.

The present weather is my favorite weather.

I’m glad that you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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Fear is meant to be overcome

I overcame my fear of going out.

I travelled to another state within India today.

Although my mother was with me, I kind of guided her throughout the journey.

I felt very anxious and I was chanting the Hare Krishna Maha Mantra throughout the journey.

That helped me a lot.

I guided my mother by telling her to cross check any directions she got from strangers. And we saved ourselves from getting lost.

Google maps saved us. My strong English speaking skills also saved us.

I realised that I am more capable than how little capable I thought I was.

We met a few extremely kind and helpful people who helped us reach our destination.

My sister’s advice and phone calls also helped me a lot. She is really a positive force of nature.

I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!

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