When you meet a stranger and based on their first impressions you judge them and think maybe they are rude and you are innocent, remember that they also might think the same about you.
You judgement that they are rude and judgemental is your judgement. And they aren’t necessarily true.
So stop judging and be happy.
We all are equal. And we must respect ourselves and each other.
Forgive yourself and forgive them and forget.
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Accept whatever life throws at you.
Without accepting you can’t change it.
Without accepting you can’t be happy.
Without accepting you can’t be good.
Surrender to the truth however bitter it may be.
That’s real growth.
That’s real healing.
Truth is the ultimate healer.
Acceptance is the ultimate method of healing.
I posted a blog post about my dissatisfaction with my life a few hours ago.
I write in that post that I wanted to cry but can’t.
I also wrote that “nobody understands me”.
All of my feelings are valid and it’s ok to cry.
But I felt the post was a little negative and didn’t add value to the readers. So I have taken it down the to drafts version.
So I am apologizing for my mistake.
Right now I am in the state I travelled to recently.
And my anxiety is going through the roof.
I need to stay busy and go out and have patience.
I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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When I was going through the worst phase of my life during my psychosis in 2017, my parents told me that that a neighbour’s family in our building prayed for my well being.
When I heard that it gave me hope.
Why would strangers pray for me?
I didn’t help them in any way in life. Nor do I have anything to give them.
But still they prayed for me.
Maybe it’s just that they closed their eyes and asked God,”Please help that boy God!”
It still brings tears of gratitude in me.
I’m grateful that you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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What’s something most people don’t understand?
People understand a lot.
They understand –
People are reasonable and they are intelligent.
India is the largest democracy in the world and I am proud to say that I believe in democracy.
So people vote leaders who then represent them in the parliament.
And basically it’s one of the right ways to run a government.
But it won’t be possible if one doesn’t have faith in people’s sound understanding and sound judgements.
There may be some things that most people don’t understand but these things are there because nobody explains it to them or because it takes a lot of time and effort to grasp them.
I’m glad you’re reading this. Thanks a lot!
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I would like to write about my privilege. Before that, I would like to tell you a story. Once there was a boy with a mental illness. But people didn’t know that his condition was due to mental illness. The boy acted normally except he wouldn’t socialize much. Most times he wouldn’t socialize with people […]
A New Perspective On Social Anxiety
Just thought this might brighten up the rest of your day.
Please read this reblog post and let me know your opinion.
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I’ve met and known people in my life who did great things not because they could do it but because they had to do it.
But why is that the case? Why is pain the greatest motivator instead of pleasure?
All my life I wanted to start a business.
And I did start a business after high school.
But I had to close it because of my unique circumstances.
But I wasn’t doing well in that business when I ran it.
I lacked motivation and I was lazy.
I started the business because I was scared of my responsibility for studying for graduation.
At that time I was thinking about dropping from regular college and I hadn’t yet taken admission in an online degree course.
And I was lost.
Long story short, I closed that business because of my unique circumstances.
Mostly because I felt anxious about running the business.
But then after I closed the business I had to study for graduation.
After a lot of listening to sad songs and realistic advice from YouTube, I studied for my graduation and graduated with a Bachelor’s of Business Administration degree.
It was at this time I felt my beliefs about the world were becoming more realistic and my mind was getting calmer.
Beliefs like “A degree is just a piece of paper” just went out the window and I realised that a degree is “more valuable than a million dollars”.
Beliefs like “psychologists don’t know anything” was replaced by “psychologists are trained professionals who know what they are doing. Their advice is backed by scientific research.”
I score 70% in my graduation which is good. (I am proud of myself no matter what because I had BPAD and I did it in spite of that.)
And this success in my graduation was not fueled by avoidance but pain.
If I didn’t graduate from college, I can’t get even the most basic corporate job.
Without a job there’s no income because business is not easy for most people.
I guess most of the startups fail within the first few years.
And I am not from a rich family.
This realisation was painful and I would sleep for hours during the day but one day I realised that I need to fight for my highest possibility.
And so I did. And with God’s grace I won.
So actually there is no pleasure or pain in reality. They are just perceptions of the mind.
And sometimes the truth is painful.
I guess I don’t know the scientific reason why pain is more powerful than pleasure. I guess you can tell me in the comments section.
But I hope my story shed some light on this question.
I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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I had read a book called “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck” by Mark Manson.
There the author writes about how entitlement or thinking that we’re special is the cause of our problems.
It is a deeply healing book and opened my eyes to the real meaning of the Bhagavad Gita.
I’m not an authority on spiritual texts, so I’ll only share my opinion.
I felt there’s a relationship between Mark Manson’s book and The Gita.
Maybe Mark Manson didn’t read the Gita. But I feel that way for some unknown reason.
For example from Bhagavad Gita, Chapter 2 verse 47 as little as I understand, it tells us to do work but be detached from the results.
I feel that Mark Manson also wants to say this through his work.
Why am I saying this? Why am I writing about Mark Manson’s book, The Bhagavad Gita and concepts of entitlement?
Because I feel it reduces our suffering.
It releases us from the idea that we must do something great. That somehow we’re special.
Sometimes it’s wiser to be humble and down-to-earth.
No life is ordinary.
Where I’m right now, I will meet my psychiatrist and psychologist in a few days and I feel like I should be treated in a special way.
Will that happen?
Nope, not going to happen.
I am getting a lot better. I have healed a lot from my mental health issues like bipolar disorder, psychosis, social anxiety, etc.
But my situation isn’t and never was special.
I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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I overcame my fear of going out.
I travelled to another state within India today.
Although my mother was with me, I kind of guided her throughout the journey.
I felt very anxious and I was chanting the Hare Krishna Maha Mantra throughout the journey.
That helped me a lot.
I guided my mother by telling her to cross check any directions she got from strangers. And we saved ourselves from getting lost.
Google maps saved us. My strong English speaking skills also saved us.
I realised that I am more capable than how little capable I thought I was.
We met a few extremely kind and helpful people who helped us reach our destination.
My sister’s advice and phone calls also helped me a lot. She is really a positive force of nature.
I’m glad you read this line. Thanks a lot!
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What do you wish you could do more every day?
I wish I could study and work more every day.
I study and work on projects sometimes related to my MBA Data Science degree.
But I get tired and get mood swings.
I bet everyone gets these mood swings when sitting down to study.
But they study regardless of their mood.
I need to work on my “study regardless of their mood” aspect.
My bipolar disorder is also responsible for my difficulties in studying long hours.
It’s not like I don’t want to study and work. It’s just that I can’t.
Writing helps me tremendously to cope with the frustration of being unable to study.
But I guess I need to draw a line between what I can do and what I expect myself to achieve.
What I can do and what I expect myself to do are two different things. They are not the same things.
Sure I can aim to study more but I need to be satisfied with what I have.
I can try to study and work for 3 hours next time. Or may 2.5 hours.
Because my circumstances are different.
Wanting more isn’t always necessary because we don’t need to compare ourselves with others.
I need to take it slow.
I’m glad you’re reading this line. Thanks a lot!
